Listening to someone happily exist within the systems of oppression that were specifically created to oppress people is confusing to watch. Especially as a person who is choosing to go against those systems.
People like this tend to be distracted by the delivery and not the message. They tend to manipulate the conversation into something that is minor in relative to the greater conversation. Trying to engage a person like this should be reserved for people with infinite patience and understanding. I ain’t got it. My mother does. Okay, maybe not infinite but her patience greatly outweighs mine. They enjoy telling people what they “should” do rather than trying to understand why they made those particular decisions. These people stress me out and I ignore them with the strength of the ancestors.